January 2010 Archives
Tonight in Chicago!: "What is Justice for Black Gay Men?"By on January 28, 2010 12:41 PM | 1 Comment
After shuffling my affairs around a bit, I'll actually be there tonight downtown at the University Center in Chicago for what appears to be a very interesting panel:

Justice for All? A community forum exploring What is justice for the Black Gay man?Panel includes Keith Boykin
Thursday, January 28 at 6pm
525 South State Street
Keith is usually a pretty solid speaker. And E Patrick Johnson is just a dream! I saw him do his one-man-show, "Pouring Tea" last year and it was WONDERFUL (see clips of his personas here - they're truly great!
A skeptical look at self-harmBy on January 27, 2010 7:24 PM | 2 Comments
Justin Varney's recent posting about "self-harm" is powerful stuff. Not just in the 'emotionally powerful' sense. It's all about the power of medical discourse to moralise matters of the body and pleasure. I know that sounds very intellectual, and that's to cover for the intense dismay I felt upon reading and re-reading Justin's post. It creates a pathology in which pleasure is (mis)taken for harm, collapsed together with later and separate consequences which diminish wellbeing.
By pathology, I mean something which can be medically defined, explained and diagnosed. When I say that Justin's entry 'pathologises' bodies and pleasures, this is another way of saying that Justin is making a claim that the discipline of medicine should take control of how to distinguish between good and bad bodies and pleasures. Justin is himself a medical and public health practitioner, and he seems unaware of the conflict of interest or the disciplinary power underpinning his work and world view.
Across the course of our lives, we are subject to a steady stream of State and industry-funded health education intended to shape us into good sexual, nutritional, and consumer citizens by inducing us to scrutinise ourselves in those moral terms of good and bad bodies and pleasures. I am constantly doing battle with slender, gym fit gay men who are utterly unable to enjoy their dessert without counting the calories. The pleasure of sweet, rich chocolate on wet, willing tongues is overwritten by the tart and astringent pleasure of torturing themselves later about their indulgence and making a ritual social confession of their sins (complete with photos).
In case that sounds like a healthy and therefore excusable obsession, think for half a second about what happens when unprotected sex gets reframed in the same way as guilty pleasure. Instead of interrogating that guilt, Justin's post seeks to repaint pleasure as harm. That's just another entry in a long log of arguments by medical and public health practitioners who, refusing to acknowledge the social and emotional reasons for human behaviour, have sought to pathologise any behaviour not based on rational individual self-scrutiny. Let me give an example:
Negotiated safety is where regular partners negotiate an agreement to have condomless sex with each other, after testing together to establish they have the same HIV status, and discussing whether sex outside the relationship is allowed, and what should happen if the agreement is broken. It was a social research concept codifying something gay men had long before figured out for themselves.
Nonetheless, when it was published, North American public health practitioners denounced it and insisted on calling it 'negotiated danger' - as though they knew better than gay men themselves what those gay men had set out to negotiate. Pleasure? No no, says Justin, 'self-harm'. Safety? No no, said David Ostrow, 'danger'. No wonder gay men resist public health, when it recognises so little of the responsibility we take over the authorship of our own lives.
Acknowledgments
In this little tirade, I'm referencing work by Michel Foucault, Eric Rofes, Michael Hurley, and Trevor Hoppe. I don't agree with Justin but I acknowledge the courage and strength it takes to raise the issues he raises.
Young Gay Man Seeks Love, IKEA, and Dinner PartiesBy on January 27, 2010 9:43 AM | 1 Comment
I was nostalgically flipping through my Master's thesis this morning, when I stumbled upon this quote from "Tom" - a 20 year old San Franciscan who I interviewed about being gay and staying HIV-negative. He was struggling to develop his own gay community, and I will never forget the passion and intensity with which he said this to me in our interview (note: "Jake" is one of the other participants, who in our focus group together came out against monogamy):
I'm really sort of a romantic idealist, you know? I always have this image of gay guys being very hard and very like cold, you know, one-night-standish - shunning love. When Jake said... 'monogamy doesn't work' - like, for me, and seriously, my heart just broke into a million pieces for like the millionth time. I was sad. I was like, GOD! That's a terrible thing to say. It can totally work! I totally want to get married - I'm so into getting married. I want to go to IKEA, I want to pickup my fucking furniture, I want to have parties, I want to have a good group of gay husbands, you know have dinner parties, and have fun, and yeah. It's in my future, I hope it is. It's what I want. So when he said that, it just made me totally sad. I totally got totally sad. I don't want that suspicion confirmed.
You know, I think some of my colleagues would quick to pounce and critique Tom's vision of his gay future. His "gay American dream," as I called it in my thesis. But he really, truly wants this. And who are we to critique him for that? Critique the (hetero)normative system in which he lives, sure. But I just can't critique Tom.
New "View from the Bottom" Coming ASAP!By on January 23, 2010 9:13 PM | No Comments
Yes, that's a gasmask. We filmed a HILARIOUS episode today that will be coming your way ASAP. I think we'll actually split it up into two segments -- there's just too much great stuff!
SCOTUS Paves Way for Corporations to Buy ElectionsBy on January 21, 2010 11:29 AM | 1 Comment
Extremely alarming news out of DC today:
Sweeping aside a century-old understanding and overruling two important precedents, a bitterly divided Supreme Court on Thursday ruled that the government may not ban political spending by corporations in candidate elections.The ruling was a vindication, the majority said, of the First Amendment's most basic free speech principle -- that the government has no business regulating political speech. The dissenters said allowing corporate money to flood the political marketplace will corrupt democracy.
The 5-to-4 decision was a doctrinal earthquake but also a political and practical one. Specialists in campaign finance law said they expected the decision, which also applies to labor unions and other organizations, to reshape the way elections are conducted.
"If the First Amendment has any force," Justice Anthony M. Kennedy wrote for the majority, which included the four members of its conservative wing, "it prohibits Congress from fining or jailing citizens, or associations of citizens, for simply engaging in political speech."
Justice John Paul Stevens read a long dissent from the bench. He said the majority had committed a grave error in treating corporate speech the same as that of human beings. His decision was joined by the other three members of the court's liberal wing.
Expect huge dollars from corporations to fund the midterm elections, which were already looking grim before this news.
British Airways: All Men = Potential Child MolestorsBy on January 21, 2010 11:08 AM | No Comments
A UK man is suing British Airways after he was forced to move from his seat because of a policy requiring male passengers not be seated next to children that are unrelated to them:
Mirko Fischer has accused the airline of branding all men as potential sex offenders and says innocent travellers are being publicly humiliated.In line with the policy, BA cabin crew patrol the aisles before take-off checking that youngsters travelling on their own or in a different row from their parents are not next to a male stranger.
If they find a man next to a child or teenager they will ask him to move to a different seat. The aircraft will not take off unless the passenger obeys.
Mr Fischer, a 33-year-old hedge fund manager, became aware of the policy while he was flying from Gatwick with his wife Stephanie, 30.
His wife, who was six months pregnant, had booked a window seat which she thought would be more spacious. Mr Fischer was in the middle seat between her and a 12-year-old boy.
Shortly after all passengers had sat down, having stowed their bags in the overhead lockers, a male steward asked Mr Fischer to change his seat.
Mr Fischer refused, explaining that his wife was pregnant, at which point the steward raised his voice, causing several passengers to turn round in alarm. He warned that the aircraft could not take off unless Mr Fischer obeyed.
Mr Fischer eventually moved seats but felt so humiliated by his treatment that he is taking the airline to court on the grounds of sex discrimination
Talk about a pedo-panic! This policy seems pretty outrageous.
Quote of the Day: Karl Ulrichs on his "Uranian Love", 1862By on January 20, 2010 12:51 PM | 2 Comments
A pioneering figure in 19th century efforts to advance public understandings of same-sex relations, Karl Heinrich Ulrichs published a series of essays in 1862 arguing for the equal treatment of "Urnings" -- or men who engage in "Man-manly love." This was somewhat similar to a proto-homosexual, but Ulrichs describes urnings as something of a third sex -- a man's body with a woman's sensibilities. My favorite and unintentionally hilarious quote from this text:
Our sexual drive is one that demands periodical satisfaction, be it complete, be it incomplete. The latter consists of petting and absorbing that magnetic current that flows from the body of a young man, which is transmitted to us through physical contact with him.The legal institution of marriage is not the institution for us. There is not priest or justice of the peace who would bind in marriage one of us and our beloved. Therefore, the natural state of the species exists for us, as it does fro the birds in the sky and the animals in the field; ie., marriage cannot be the prerequisite of a moral license for gratification in any relationship, at least as long as priests and justices of the peace are lacking. -- Karl Heinrich Ulrichs, "The Riddle of Man-Manly Love: The Pioneering Work on Male Homosexuality" (1994 / 1862), p. 40.
Here here, old boy! LOL. Seriously, the essay is pretty amazing. Click here to download a PDF of it!
Congrats to Mark @ QueerToday.com for 10 Years of Blogavism!By on January 20, 2010 8:11 AM | No Comments
Just a shout-out to our dear friend Mark Snyder who is today celebrating his 10th anniversary of blogavism over at QueerToday.com.
I met Mark in Boston the summer of 2003 when I was interning for the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force. We worked together on several activisty projects that summer, and somehow I knew I'd know this faggot for a long time! Let's also not forget this gem of a song -- "Femme Top" -- he wrote and performed for Trevorade drinkers a few months back that changed my life!
Here's a letter from Mark about the anniversary, and about the work he's been up to for the past 10 years:
Dear Activists & Allies,QueerToday.com has entered our 10th year of activism, organizing, blogging, news breaking, and revolution!
Please invite ten of your friends to join QueerToday.com!
I really can't believe it's been ten years since I first threw up a little website on geocities and called it "Queer Today." Since then, it's been a whirlwind of activity.
I'll never forget when twelve of us created a huge scene in the Arch Diocese of Boston and garnered headlines worldwide. It was likely one of the first times the word Queer was plastered on newspapers and tv channels, reclaimed by our own community, since Queer Nation.
I'm proud of the many activists who helped organize a huge coalition in protest of Boston Pride when they chose a militaristic theme. We formed the largest contingent in the parade that year.
And then there was that time we teamed up with Boston's anti-war movement to create the largest ever protest of James Dobson's Love Won Out Conference. In the rain, sleet, and snow we were able to bring 1000 people to the doors of their little hatefest. Even though the mainstream gay rights organizations like Mass Equality were hoping we wouldn't launch a direct action, we did it anyway - and we scared the shit out of everyone.
We accomplished all of this and more without donations or corporate funding.
Now, QueerToday.com is an online hub for radical queer activists and our allies. We've only just begun. Please invite 10 of your friends to join QueerToday.com in celebration of our anniversary.
This week on QueerToday.com there have been several contributions to our blog worth noting. JAC posted their documentary about being genderqueer in the Midwest - take a look! I am asking the question "Does the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association Betray their Membership?" And Alex asks that we "Let ENDA be a lesson for all of us!"
In solidarity with all of you rock stars,
Mark D. Snyder
QueerToday.com
Congrats, dear! xoxo
GRINDR 1.1's Distance Accuracy FeatureBy on January 19, 2010 5:36 PM | 2 Comments
For the unfamiliar, GRINDR has quickly emerged as one of the hottest apps for any gay with an iPhone in North America. It's GPS-based hooking up. Basically, it displays men in your area in order of geographic proximity. He looks hot, and he's only 1048 feet away from you! Holy cow! As soon as this app burst into our sexual psyches, it quickly initiated a confusing debate: How accurate is this damn location feature? This led to amusing conversations like these recently had with my friends in Boston over New Year's:
Me: Um... it says this guy is 0 feet away! He's in my apartment!Friend (in creepy voice): The call is coming from inside YOUR ASSHOLE!
Thankfully, my asshole was trade-free upon closer inspection. But I remained haunted by the vision for weeks -- until GRINDR released their latest update last night clarifying just how far potential trade is from one's asshole. It's nifty. When you log on, you see this screen. Note the new "finding location" icon at the bottom left corner of the screen (click to enlarge):
And once you're all logged in and comfortable, magically GRINDR now will tell you just how precise it's location estimates are, quelling any future fears of messages coming from inside one's rectum:

Neat, eh?
A Message from Your Friendly Manhunt NeighborBy on January 16, 2010 12:31 PM | 3 Comments
So late last night I got an entirely predictabe, grumpy and sissyphobic message on Manhunt. It happens, whatever. But I thought I would share the exchange here to help illustrate the kinds of battles femme queers like me and countless others are forced to engage in regularly on these sites and of course offline. Here's his first shot:
Congrats! You Def lived up to your Stereotype---Good for You!1. Amazibg profile ---
A. Almost thought you were a thoughtful--insig sightl-intelligen t guy,
B. than the "USUAL Low Life GAY Persoanlty" shows it self
C. What all GAY GUYS LIVE FOR "A thick-dicked, confident & caring top is my ideal"2. My study of you guys is SHALLOW---SUPERFICIAL- --LOOSE---RISKY----SEL F INVOLVED--IMMATURE---CARES ABOUT NOTHING---NO ONE-- BUT YOURSELVES AND GETTING
YOUR ROCKS OFF!3. EVERY Wonder Why You ASSHOLES get STEREOTYPED---"YOU STEREOTYPE--YOURSELVES!
4. IF you guys ACTED LIKE A NORMAL GUY-------I MIGHT ACTUALLY FUCK ONE OF YOU FUCKWADS!
I've heard this tripe before. His profile describes him as a "divorced bi" guy into "normal guys." I long ago decided not to engage with these kinds of creeps, but I was feeling a bit fiesty, so I wrote back:
My dear, you sound a bit bitter!xoxo
Trevor
I thought a simple parting shot like that would illustrate that I was not perturbed and that he was pathetic. Whatever, bad idea I know -- so bad in fact that this morning I woke up to this message from him. Item #1 is, I think, unintentionally one of the funniest things I've read in months.
"My Dear" See again there you Prove the GAY STEREOTYPE!1. My names Trevor, I'm Gay, Fuckin Femm-Limp Wristed Fag, Lost my Balls!!
3. See whats HOT is SEX with a MASCULINE GUY!
4. WHY Would I FUCK Some FAG WHO ACTS LIKE A WOMAN, I'D RATHER FUCK A WOMAN.
5.SO WHAT HAPPENS TREV?? WHEN YOU TURN GAY:-Do YOU "LOSE YOUR BALLS!!!!!
6. BTW---DEAR-----IF YOU WANNA ACT LIKE A WOMAN OR LIMP WRISTED FAG--GET A SEX CHANGE!
I don't usually "out" people like this. But this is just so many levels of wrong. His screenname on Manhunt is BIJOCK09. If you think he's a jerk as I do, tell him so!
Lesbian PreventionBy on January 15, 2010 10:09 AM | No Comments
Just thought I'd share this (definitely NSFW) video intended for a lesbian audience. It was posted on French lesbian and gay website www.yagg.com. For those of you who do not read French, you can find a translation of the very few subtitles on this website. I do not think that anyone will have the least difficulty getting the point anyway ;)
By on January 14, 2010 1:14 PM | No Comments
I'm thinking of asking off of class to go to this! Sounds like it should be a very interesting dialogue:

Justice for All?
A community forum exploring
What is justice for
the Black Gay man?
Panel includes Keith Boykin
Thursday, January 28 at 6pm
525 South State Street

By on January 14, 2010 12:56 PM | No Comments
I love this (albeit slightly outdated) clip. My friend posted it to Facebook today and I almost fell out of my chair. Honey, you need some action!
SCOTUS' Bizarre Rationale for Blocking Prop 8 Cameras: Supporters --> VictimsBy on January 14, 2010 8:13 AM | No Comments
This has got to be one of the more bizarre and twisted uses of logic by SCOTUS in recent memory. In a 5-4 partisan decision, conservative justices argued that Prop 8 supporters would likely be subject to "irreparable harm" if they were shown on closed-circuit feed:
The high court's five conservatives formed the majority. They said federal judge Vaughan Walker didn't follow court rules when he ordered proceedings broadcast by closed circuit to federal courthouses in several cities. The Supreme Court's four liberals joined a dissent written by Justice Stephen Breyer. The main issue in the case is whether a 2008 voter initiative called Proposition 8 violates the U.S. Constitution by creating a law that discriminates on the basis of sexual orientation. Defenders of Proposition 8 say it validly defined marriage in traditional terms by restricting marriage to people who could have children naturally. The proposition's defenders said broadcasting the proceedings could expose witnesses favoring the gay-marriage ban to harassment and ridicule. The Supreme Court majority backed that view, saying Proposition 8 supporters would likely suffer "irreparable harm" if the proceedings were shown through the closed-circuit feed.
Notably, this decision did not discuss posting the trial footage on Youtube, which is being decided upon at a lower court presently. Nevertheless, there has been a great push to frame evangelical Christian and Mormon supporters of Prop 8 and other anti-gay statutes as victims in the past five years. Their right to free speech is infringed upon by the harassment that ensues when they declare homophobic statements in the public sphere. This is actually quite interesting, because indeed LGBT supporters also have a right to free speech in criticizing them. But is that threat so great that they could suffer "irreparable harm"? That seems to me to be a bit of a stretch, no?
Feliz cumpleaños ErósferaBy on January 13, 2010 12:39 PM | No Comments
Erósfera es un proyecto de educación para las sexualidades (sí, en plural por aquello de que cada sexualidad es un mundote) dirigido principalmente a jóvenes de todas las edades, orientaciones sexuales e identidades, en una lógica de no discriminación, noviolencia y en un marco de derechos sexuales y reproductivos, el rollo está muy laico, muy plural y muy incluyente.
En este centro encuentras una condonería para apoyar económicamente al proyecto, un centro de información documental de acceso gratuito donde puedes consultar desde "Papá, mamá, soy gay" hasta manuales y guías para encabezar, crear y medir tus propios proyectos sobre salud sexual y derechos sexuales, hay un área de trabajo con grupos donde se llevan a cabo los talleres, capacitaciones y ciclos de cine-debate sobre los temas que se manejan como empoderamiento de mujeres, no discriminación, diversidad sexual, prevención de VIH/Sida, etc. Además se cuenta con el servicio de consejería y asesoría psicológica, todo esto a cargo de personas sensibilizadas y capacitadas en el ramo, un colectivo de jóvenes que ha chambeado en un lugar tan difícil como Puebla por un promedio de 5 años (hay banda que está en estas cosas desde hace 8 o que recién se integraron el año pasado) un colectivo de jóvenes de diversas ONGs que sólo buscan que la información llegue.
Erósfera celebrará su cumpleaños número 2 con un ciclo especial de cine-debate gratuito donde se proyectarán pelis como "shortbus" de John Cameron Mitchell o "the Raspberry Reich" de Bruce LaBruce, asi como círculos de conversación y talleres en diversas preparatorias de la Ciudad. ¿Te interesa que Erósfera vaya a tu escuela? Contácta en www.erosferaweb.org o busca el perfil o el grupo de Erósfera en facebook. Si vives en Puebla ve a Juan de Palafoz y Mendoza 412, depto 9ª en el mero centro histórico de la ciudad.
Felicidades a tod@s y síganle dando a la chamba en Puebla, donde la educación sexual formal casi no existe y la que existe casi nunca es laica.
Maxime's "Best Foreign Picture" Oscar Roundup: Sadism, Prison Gangs, and Drama Queens, Oh My!By on January 11, 2010 12:23 PM | No Comments
I am very excited by three movies which will compete for an Oscar in the best foreign language film this year: I am thinking of the German movie The White Ribbon, the French movie A Prophet and the Canadian movie I Killed My Mother. Each one of these movies can be interpreted and appreciated as a queer delight in spite of their numerous differences in both style and content! Here are some thoughts on each of them.
Let's start with The White Ribbon, directed by Haneke and already rewarded by the prestigious Palme d'or this year. Haneke, trained as a philosopher and haunted since his first movies by the subjects of evil, lost innocence and eroticism, has the well deserved reputation of being a Master in the realm of perversions. In The White Ribbon, certainly inspired by the crossed readings of Un Roi Sans Divertissement and Le Roi des Aulnes, Haneke takes us for a visit in lost, rural pre-WW1 German village where Puritan adults live hard social life ruled by professional submission and religious devotion. The adults living in this small, isolated community do their best to educate children and teach them the love of pure love, and the passion of truth, sincerity and decency.
Paradoxically - not so much from our blasé bitchy point of view - this obsession about purity turns the education into an edu-castration in which children are often punished and subjects to tears, guilt and fear. One of the darkest scenes of this extremely dark movie - yet filled with the light of fields and snow all along the story - is when the pastor forces his son to confess his masturbatory habits in a very sly way before making the decision to make him sleep with tied hands. The movie is a series of hostile accidents in which sadistic acts happen to inhabitants of the village: but the thriller becomes almost metaphysical as the search for the serial torturer becomes a pretext to highlight the darkness of human soul, of every human soul raised and tamed in a puritan obsession for purity which ends up in the promotion of a clandestine ethics of cruelty. If purity is based on repression and guilt, and love has to be impossibly chaste, then society produces in the soul of innocent children a precocious taste for forbidden pleasures. All this is extremely well shown in this amazing movie in which the denunciation of a puritan vision of life does not condemn the fascination for evil angel-faced children.
The second movie, A Prophet, directed by Audiard, was sometimes introduced as a French Scarface (or anti-Scarface) because of its focus on an ethical odyssey instead of a gangster narrative starting with the rise and fall of an ambitious, smart outlaw. Malik is a young orphan who enters jail at 19 and doesn't know much about prison as a social universe with its values and rules. "Recruited" by a gang (the Corsicans), his initiation starts by a startling mission: he is ordered to kill with a razor Reyed, member of the other gang (the Muslims). Although Malik is an Arabic boy, and he should be expected to join the Muslim community, he is elected by the racist Corsican boss, Cesar, as a potentially brilliant recruit. And indeed, little by little, Malik takes up difficult challenges, learns how to speak Corsican and gain Cesar's trust, and becomes in the end smarter and stronger than his defeated boss.
If A Prophet was just the story of the social ascension of a gangster, it would be an excellent action movie, but thank you God it happens to be, on top of that, as I mentioned earlier, an ethical odyssey - more precisely the quest for dignity, autonomy and respect in the corrupted, ultra violent, ultra masculine universe of prison. Malik kills Reyeb as he was told, slaughtering him with a small razor blade, because inside his mind he has to live with a troubled consciousness, haunted by the spectre of Reyeb in his mind, and starts living with him after having killed him in the most disgusting way and against his will. Before being killed, Reyed had told Malik that he would be willing to give him some pot to smoke if Malik was willing to give him a blow job. When Malik visits Reyeb in his cell, hiding his razor in his mouth, he wants to start blowing him but Reyeb stops him, postpones the blow job and prefers to start talking in a friendly, paternalistic way, suggesting Malik he could use his time to read and increase the freedom of his soul while being in jail. All of a sudden the revolting side of the blow job as a prostitution thing in order to get some weed turns into an opening space for solidarity, exchange and trust. But malik has a mission to accomplish and, as his mouth starts bleeding, he kills Reyeb without sparing us with gore and sighs. If pedagogy in Ancient Greece was pederastic, the aborted relationship between Reyeb and Malik was opening a queer space in which a young straight boy was to be initiated to a sexual friendship with an "older brother" willing to share his sperm and knowledge as a specific training. Malik did not kill Reyeb because he was against this special bondage but because he would have been killed himself if he did not accomplish his mission. Once Reyeb is killed, Malik learns how to live with him, not just the spectre of his bad consciousness but also the humanist light, acting like a guide and a close friend in the competitive and stressful context of gang wars. If Malik, in the end, takes his revenge against Cesar, it is not merely a question of power struggle, but the payment of an ethical debt he had vis-à-vis Reyeb: the ghost, the missing father, the older brother, the taboo lover, definitely the queer friend.
Last but not least, the fabulous, talented, unforgettable J'ai tué ma mère ("I killed my mother"), a movie in French Canadian directed by the main actor and screenwriter of Xavier Dolan. Hubert is a teenager who attends high school and lives with his divorced mother, Chantal, somewhere in Québec. The whole story of this love story is how Hubert and Chantal hate each other in a devastating way. And yet, the hatred between them, however intense and straightforward it can be, reveals a mistaken alphabet of confused feelings about the extreme emotion that bonds the hysterical mother and her drama queen, gifted gay son. They both over react, are ashamed of each other, suffer from being misunderstood and crucified by the other's cruel blindness, but as the drama gets bigger and dangerous for their mental health, the spectator starts suspecting that this tempest of threats and insults hides the impossibility to express a stormy love which is doomed to express itself through a kind of SM relationship. Both actors are extremely convincing, the dialogues are vivid and written with an amazing sense of hurt feelings, the spectator does not stop being moved and splashed by the fusion-confusion between mummy dearest and her unbearable Rimbaud, and also by the poetry that structures the expression of these tormented hearts. The subject may seem cliché and predictable, but its treatment is clearly a tour de force.
If one of these three movies could be rewarded with the Oscar for the best foreign language film, that would be good news!
Orbitz Gaycation Donation (You Book, They Donate)By on January 6, 2010 10:04 AM | No Comments
I noticed this special while hopping around the web today. When you book travel with Orbitz before March 31st, they'll donate to two LGBT charities that you pick out of a list of a dozen or so. Pretty sweet deal! If you're planning any travel before that time, it's worth thinking about!:
Click here for more info.
Ringing in the New Decade Right!By on January 6, 2010 9:42 AM | No Comments
Happy 2010, ladies! I've been a terribly negligent blogger as of the past month. First it was final exams, and then it was family and friends over the holidays. Alas, my month of intense pain and then leisure has now come to a halt and I'm back to the grind. Classes begin again today at Michigan. Too early if you ask me!
New Year's was spent with the San Francisco gay family -- temporarily located in Boston to be with our friend whose just moved there from SF -- and it was a lovely time. As if this photo doesn't say it all:

That was New Year's Day after having dinner in Boston's North End Italian District. We ate at Pomodoro, which changed our lives. Seriously: One of the best meals of my gay life. The woman who owns it runs it with her daughter who waits tables while she keeps everything moving. It's the size of a New York hotel room in there, but the food is delicious and she kept plying us with complimentary appetizers and desserts to "start the new year right." She's wonderful, and so is her eatery.
We stayed at our dear friend Ty's place -- who has just moved out East to the frozen Puritanical tundra that is Boston. He lives out in Jamaica Plain, which meant taking the orange line to and fro his place. Here we are bundled up within an inch of our lives waiting for the train to come in the decidedly unheated station:

Jesus we're adorable. I can hardly stand it myself, so I'll call this entry to an end. I'll get back to a regular routine of sharing gayness here this week. Sorry for the hiatus! Hope you had a lovely holiday season as well!
xoxoxoxo
T